Finding romance through online dating sites
can sometimes be difficult... only you know whether you you need an
Online Dating Agency, a Professional Dating Service, or Matchmaking
Dating Service. Below we've assembled a whole bunch of information, advice
and articles to help you, the single man or woman in your search for
true love. There's also some excellent advice on what to do while
your out on your date.
|Online Dating Services of interest:
eHarmony - You've seen their ads on TV and
heard them on radio. Take their Personality Profile and get instant,
objective feedback on yourself and how you relate to others.
Friendfinder - With over
1,000,000 registered users, this site always has thousands of personal
listings - plus chat rooms, articles and advice for Singles
Big Church - They have a community of thousands Christian
members worldwide. Christian Singles can come together for dating,
courtship, fellowship, and marriage.
Jewish FriendFinder - You can meet singles within
the Jewish faith. Search over 90,000 Members worldwide. Anonymous
email, chat, and Instant Message.
Here are some sites for Mature Singles:
Friendfinder - Meet
Active, Single Seniors for Friendship and More. The most popular place
for people over 40 looking for romance, dating and friendship.
Singles at eHarmony - It can be
difficult to meet other single seniors with whom you share
common interests, goals, and backgrounds within your geographical area.
No matter what type of individual you are looking for, chances are you
will find that type of person on eHarmony.
- A safe online community for the senior citizens and old folks to
interact and find exciting romances, warm companionship and more.
here's a Dating Site for
shall we say, the more adventurous...
over twenty million active members, this is the world's largest adult
site. Definitely for the more adventurous.
Dating Safety Tips
How safe is Online Dating?
Safety-wise, meeting on the Net is inherently
similar to meeting offline.
As long as the same standard dating precautions are
followed, cyber-savvy daters can feel truly at ease while getting to know each other. The
main thing to remember: trust your instincts and use common sense just like you would
- Remember that you are in control of your online experience
at all times. You can remain completely anonymous until you feel ready.
- You are also in control when it comes to taking an online
relationship offline. Plus, you have an advantage online because you can get to know each
other before you meet. Remember that you don't need to take anything further than the
computer or phone wires until you feel completely at ease. Go at your own pace!
- When you do decide to meet face to face, pick a public place
and provide your own transportation to and fro. Tell a friend where you're going and check
in when you return home.
- Never include your personal contact information in your
profile, especially telephone numbers, email, home address or your last name, and only
give them out when your instincts tell you this is someone you can trust. It's okay to
take your time.
- Set up an email account just for online personals.
- Ask a lot of questions and watch for inconsistencies.
- Stay away from members who won't take no for an answer or
pressure you for any kind of personal information. Serious cyber-savvy daters will respect
your space and allow you to take your time.
- If someone asks you to go to their personal web site or asks
you for money, use common sense not to oblige and then report the situation to the dating
- If someone gives you a phone number with a strange area
code, check it out to make sure it's not a charge number before you make the call.
- Using your own good judgment is your best bet because
ultimately you are responsible for your personal dating experience. Trust your instincts
and then have fun with the right people!
To Get More Responses At Online Dating Sites
By: Sharon Alger
So, you’ve decided to join a dating website.
You’re hoping someone out there will find something interesting about you and try to
get to know you better.
Many members worry about appearing ‘desperate’ or
over keen. This can mean putting in less effort into a profile in a bid to ‘play it
cool’. Of course, nobody wishes to be seen as desperate. However, keep this in mind:
how will others know what you want, if you don’t ask for it? How will they ever
appreciate your finer qualities if you remain tightlipped?
Therefore, to be successful in the online dating world,
your profile is highly important. Members search through a large number of profiles on
these sites. If there is little information about a prospective date, then they are more
than likely to skim over an empty profile as quickly as possible. Look at this as a great
chance to sell yourself!
The first aspect of your profile to consider should be your
photo. No matter how much emphasis people put on the importance of personality, the old
expression, ‘it’s nice to put a face to a name’ couldn’t be more apt.
Physical appearance plays a big part in the real world,
when first becoming attracted to someone. Also, it helps to ensure that people will
remember you. The golden rule when posting photos on dating sites is obvious – BE
HONEST. We’ve all heard stories of people who’ve posted a photo that is ten or
twenty years old. Or worse still, a photo of someone else entirely! Now, if you never
intend to meet someone, then this is not a problem. But let’s be realistic – you
wouldn’t be on a dating site if you weren’t hoping to meet someone!
A misleading photo causes all sorts of unnecessary problems
on a first date. You will have your date questioning your honesty. You want to turn up for
dates relaxed, with your best attitude put forward. Still not convinced? Just think how
you would feel, if you were deceived by a photo, and that should be incentive enough for
you to be accurate.
So what if you’ve gained a few pounds? Aged a bit?
Give yourself some credit, you’re still a beautiful person, and sure to be
someone’s ideal ‘type’. So, try to get a recent photo of yourself, looking
the best you can. Avoid shots that are so dark or distant that no one can see your face.
People will only see either an insecure person, or someone who has something to hide and
move on. Just think how frustrated and disinterested you’d be if you came across such
Let’s talk about location. How much information is
right? Obviously, for safety reasons you aren’t going to put your address into your
profile. Apart from this, put as much detail as you feel comfortable with. At least, put
the state you live in. at most, your suburb. Anything in between (such as the city your
suburb is located in) is also fine. We all know this, but it bears repeating, do not put
your phone number on any public site.
It will save everyone a great deal of time if you are open
and honest about your sexual preference.
Talk about your interests and hobbies. Don’t just
leave it blank! And don’t worry if they don’t seem interesting enough. This is
who you are. If you are honest and forthcoming with this information, you will be more
likely to attract the type of person you are after. For example, if you were the district
running champion in high school, but never intend to run again, don’t put it in as a
hobby! To put in hobbies you have no interest in, in the hope of appearing more
impressive, will only attract people you have nothing in common with in the here and now.
So, if you like quiet nights in, say so! Try to paint a
rich and detailed picture of what the real you likes to do.
You also really need to share a part of your personality
with your audience. What are your beliefs? What are you looking for in a person? Also, if
you feel you have special qualities such as a sense of humor or kind nature, try to write
your profile in a way that sincerely reflects that.
You are now ready to make your first attempt at creating a
winning profile! Remember, you just need to keep it honest and current. You need to show
you’ve made some level of effort to let members know who the real you is. And when in
doubt, remind yourself: give the sort of information you yourself would be wanting to know
about when looking at other members. Good luck!
Communication Do's & Don'ts
By: Jessica Jasmine
A very important ingredient to having a superior relationship lies in good communication.
In fact, it is almost impossible to have any kind of relationship with a person unless you
are able to relate to him or her. The ability to communicate effectively
means that you have to pay close attention and to listen very carefully. We all have
different method of communication. You need to be able to understand, appreciate, and
respect how other
people communicate, especially your dating partner.
A good way to show your date that you are listening carefully to him or her is to repeat
what he or she has said. Say for example your partner tells you: "You have been very
distant lately," you
then say, "So you are saying I have been distant?" Follow up with an open ended
question like "Tell me more about what you mean." By saying that, you can verify
what your spouse has said and make him or her feel comfortable about talking to you about
his or her concern.
How you communicate with your words could bring comfort by reducing fear and easing
tension. The following are some guiding principles to help you take advantage of your
words and get your point across more effectively:
Do make the person you are talking to feel secure by offering a lot of support and
appreciation. This gets the silent types to open up more and feel at ease.
Don't make your date feel uncomfortable by judging, criticizing, or making fun of what he
or she has to say.
Do relax. Feeling anxious can mess up your confidence and attention. Take deep breathes
when you feel like you need to end the conversation because of fear or panic.
Don't feel that everything has to be resolved at one time.
Do listen carefully and avoid interrupting while the other person is talking.
Don't use offensive vocabularies and expressions. It is very disrespectful and cheapens
you and the person you are talking to.
Do get to the point and be clear on what you want to get across or if you have any
to Talk to a Woman
By: Caterina Christakos
Taking a girl out on a date already says a lot. But this
whole business is not just about seducing someone. You must gain the confidence and trust
of the person sitting at the other end of the table. More than that, you must make her
feel good in your presence and even want more. How to do this? Simple! When you're not
flirting with her just let her take control for a while.
Always keep in mind that women's favorite subject is
themselves. This little "bug" in their software gives men a big advantage in a
conversation and that is curiosity. Yet, only few use it because of the misconceptions
surrounding curiosity in general. Curiosity may have killed the cat, but when a
conversation between a man and a woman is concerned, I don't think it ever hurt anyone.
What I'm trying to say is that if she says something that makes you curious... just ask
her! This will tell her that you are interested in her person. Nevertheless, watch out for
those not so discreet questions that could turn you into a cat and get you killed.
Another thing most men forget is that women, even the
prettiest, disregard themselves. If you discovered something about her that you really
like make sure she can feel your admiration. This rule applies to anything from the color
of her eyes to the way she back-parked her car for example. Still, try to use original
ways to make compliments and remember that you'll receive the most "points" for
cherishing her intelligence.
Always listen to her when she talks! Sounds too obvious?
Maybe, but the key thing is that it counts less if you've been really listening to her as
long as she thinks you weren't. Therefore you can use several tricks like saying
confirmation phrases ("I see", "yes" etc.) showing that you're
following her. Just don’t do it so much that she mistakes you for her shrink.
Re-telling what she just said is another useful skill as long as you don't abuse it. You
simply rephrase what she said and she'll know you got the point. Nevertheless it can be
very annoying if you overuse it.
And, as I mentioned earlier, when she makes you curious
about something just ask her! This proves you were listening in the first place. The same
happens when you make a compliment based on something she just said.
But curiosity can also be used whenever you run out of
topics in a conversation. Every woman is curious by nature so all you have to do is to
stir her curiosity and forget all about you running out of interesting subjects or her
getting bored. About The Author: Caterina Christakos is a published author
and dating coach.
By: Lee Dobbins
Dating can be stressful and nerve wracking. You might feel
like you are under a microscope and all your failures and faults are exposed in the open.
But you can make things easier on yourself by boosting your confidence. You'll be much
more attractive to any date when you exude self confidence plus you'll be able to enjoy
yourself more and get much more out of the dating experience.
Since the whole point of dating is getting to know someone
better, most people are nervous about making a good impression. Self doubts can creep in -
are you smart enough? Attractive enough? Successful enough? That coupled with the threat
of rejection is enough to make anyone's confidence go south.
So how can you increase your confidence for your next date?
First off, don't blow the date all out of proportion. It is
just a date - one afternoon or evening. The rest of your life does not depend on it,
although of course, you could be meeting your future spouse! Whether you are just looking
for a fun night out or desperately trying to find Mr or Mrs right, it is best to just
focus on the date itself. Take it for what it is and don't put a lot of pressure on the
event. Enjoy the person you are on the date with and the meal, movie or whatever - don't
have any great expectations other than a fun date.
Go into the date thinking of yourself as a person that has
a lot of confidence. We've all seen them, the person that sweeps into the room and turns
heads even when they might not be the most attractive or best dressed. If you picture
yourself as confident then you will act this way - even when you don't really feel it.
You've heard it before but the best way to have
confidence on a date is to be yourself. Don't try to impress your date by
acting like someone you are not because you will not have the confidence to
pull it off. If you hit it off with your date, you'll be glad you weren't
pretending to be someone else as it will only be exposed later and could
really muss things up for you. Plus it just takes too much effort to
pretend to be someone else and you won't be able to enjoy yourself as much. And anyway,
why wouldn't your date like you for who you are?
If you feel insecure about yourself, focus on the other
person. Become interested in their hobbies, likes dislikes and really think about what
they have to say. When you put them in the spotlight it takes the spotlight off of you,
plus you get to learn a lot about them. Ask questions and really hear the answers then ask
more questions about the answers. Of course, you want to do this in a conversational way
and not make your date feel like you are grilling them! While you don't want to talk just
about yourself the whole time you also don't want to make it seem like you are avoiding
answering their questions. When you do talk about yourself highlight your positive points.
Another way to take some of the pressure out of a date is
to do something different instead of sitting at dinner and feeling insecure about coming
up with 3 hours of conversation with someone you don't know. Find a common interest,
perhaps hiking or bird watching and make that date to do that. This way you can talk about
your experiences related to t his interest and it will take a lot of the pressure off as
well as boost your self confidence as you will be talking about something you know a lot
The main thing when dating is to remember that you are a
valuable and special person. Don't feel inferior to anyone and be confident - this will
help win you many friends and, maybe even that special someone!
a Man Sexy
By: Rachelle Arlin Credo
What makes a man appealing? Is it his dashing good looks? Is it his rock-hard pecs and
abs of steel? Or is it his smile and his personality that takes the top plum? In a society
where everyone seems aesthetically astute, it's difficult to validate this question for
sure. Sexiness is a very subjective matter and is very relative at that. It holds
inconsonant views from each individual just as everyone squabbles over tastes in clothes
and food. Hence, a universal answer to this blown-up question is an illusion.
Nonetheless, being in a magnificent relationship with
someone so downright sexy replete with all the sensual and sensible traits any woman would
kill for, I think I can provide authentic down-to-earth revelations regarding this
So what makes a man sexy? Take your whiffs off the following:
There is more to a man than his firm butt and washboard abs. True, what a woman first
notices is his anatomical assets but what lingers in her mind is not all that. It's his
inherent masculinity. It's in the way he languidly struts across the room with a show of
adequacy and grace and the way he flashes the glint in his eyes that ultimately creates
the spark. It's also in the manner that he moves and talks that keeps women's eyes riveted
at him. Being masculine does not merely suggest flaunting a large build or a protective
quality but having this natural instinctive masculine self to trigger women's instinctive
feelings of attraction.
A natural sweet smile is one of the greatest attraction of a man. It exudes an aura of
congeniality and establishes charisma presence. It also breaks a woman's resistance and
communicates hidden messages without any verbal language. This is why a man who is
generous with his smile is guaranteed to maintain a women-magnet profile!
3. Eye contact
A man who knows how to have eye contact is a man who knows how to communicate. Women just
like men are absolute attention seekers. They want men to listen and to take heed of the
things they say. Thereupon, they demand affirmation. Eye contact is a way of ratifying. It
makes a woman feel sufficiently attended to and cared for. Eye contact makes women feel so
that they tend to sometimes melt right on the spot.
Confidence makes a man. There's just something about the appeal of wealth and power that
women can't resist. Antithetical to how most people view it, giving off that commanding
vibe isn't always dependent on one's bank account. Men can actually take on that aura of
authority just by moving through life with an air of self-assurance and a boost of
5. Aromatic sense
If a man is a making of a heartthrob onscreen and is a hunk on a ramp but stinks, he
definitely goes down the cutthroat world. No woman likes a man who smells a bit too ripe
like he just spent 24 hours locked in the bathroom. If a man looks good and smells even
better, women are bound to swarm around him.
6. Sense of Style
Some men just don't seem the type to go with the fashion trend. But it does not mean that
they are passť. Some just have their own personal preferences and resist the lure of
punked-up garments. Actually, it's not the clothes that make a man sexy. It's how he
carries his apparel with confidence and ease that does. Clothes don't entice women, it's
the man that makes those clothes look good in him that wiles them.
7. Communication skills
Intellect is a factor in today's attraction equation. We are in such a competitive world
that anyone without it is immediately slighted. But intellect without communication skills
is not an attractive product. Conversational skills are necessary for any man to win the
tilt. He must know when and how to start up a conversation and carry it on 'til it tapers
off. He should not patronize women and is not so full of himself. It is believed that if a
man is able to stimulate a woman's brain juices in a conversation, it is likely that he
can stimulate her other juices as well.
Sensitivity is sexy but too much sensitivity is feminity. So where do we draw the line?
When we talk about sensitivity on the right scale, it means having a sense of empathy,
confidentiality and trust rolled into one. When a woman confides something, a man's
initial reaction is to help her find a solution or fix it himself. This is not
sensitivity. When a woman expresses her feelings, she just needs an ear to
steam out of her being. A sexy man sees this through and gets women every
9.Sense of Humor
Laughter releases chemicals that create a sense of well-being, which is a wonderful
turn-on. A man equipped with a good sense of humor automatically wins his points on the
sexy scale with women. With the mighty use of his expression and wits combined, he becomes
an addiction that women just can't get enough of. Women think that if he can evoke them
with laughter in public, chances are he can also make them giggle in bed.
Extrinsic and intrinsic personal abilities and traits that are considered unique and
superior by a woman's biology and also by the society to which she identifies with are, to
varying extents, very charming to the female species. If a man has the gift of music or
have potential fancy footwork or simply has art at his fingertips, he can charm his way
anywhere. A mysterious facade that keeps her intrigued and guessing is also deemed
bewitching. But a man's resistance to a woman's seduction is considered the prime. It's
effects are naturally ingrained into the "sex" part of a woman's brain that it
drives her motors purring all the time.
What makes a man sexy is but everything about him and even more. Whether it be on
the surface or skin deep, it's just a matter of projection. Every man is sexy in their own
ways. They just have to feel that in themselves so the seething sexiness comes out of them
About the author:
Rachelle Arlin Credo is an entrepreneur and relationship coach. She also works as an image
consultant and part-time writer. Formerly a contributing scribe to The Freeman and Sunstar
Philippines, her literary works have been published in various magazines and online
or Making Love
by: Caterina Christakos
Having sex or making love?
Actually, the difference between the two concepts is bigger than some of us would like it
to be. And, as almost every time, women feel it the most. What is the difference? Well,
love. Women need to be protected, looked after and loved as much in bed as in every day
Keep in mind that this is not just a legend used by women to manipulate men. The
difference between having sex and making love, together with it's implications in a
couple's sex life is what many men forget when sharing the bed-sheets with a woman.
Clearly, everything written so far will not apply to
one-night-stands. In those cases it is all about a sexual intercourse between two people
who only share their bodies.
After the bottom line has been drawn, most men feel good about themselves after a
one-night- stand, without thinking about their sexual performance. Totally pleasing a
woman from the very first time is no easy job as the only mystery she had disclosed
is her body.
Yet, most men are attracted to one-night-stands or, with other words, to having sex. The
lack of commitment needed and the easy attaining of the main goal: feeling good, are just
two reasons pleading in favor of having sex.
On the other hand there is so much more between a man and a woman making love. There are
feelings and emotions, leading to a totally different connection between the two of them.
that, for women, one of the most important things during sex is the environment. And this
means everything from location to those few candles some like to place around the bed.
Let's take them in turn a little bit. If you want to leave her smiling and begging for a
cigarette and some more there are some things you might like to take into consideration.
Trying dad's old car's rear suspension will make the car happier than her. The ideal
location would certainly be a bed in a nice and cozy room with nothing interfering with
the moment. Someone
knocking on the door or even a ringing phone can have very undesirable effects. Some
candle-like lights and easy-listening music in the background adds even more to the
Explore every inch of her body and draw imaginary contours with your fingers and tongue,
kiss her neck, breasts, belly and legs, all in a specific order surrounding the most
important area and closing in at the same time. All this will increase the tension
and when that moment comes both you and her will feel the difference.
Communication is essential for great results. Men must pay attention to the unspoken signs
every woman gives them. Ignoring these signs will make women feel used. The old legend
that says that when a woman says "no" she actually means "yes" is
nothing more than a poor excuse so keep your ears open for her desires.
If all goes well, you might be given the supreme sexual command and that's "don't
stop!" When you hear that, whatever you do, DON'T STOP!
About The Author: Caterina Christakos is a published author
and dating coach.
You Must Know About Women
By: Caterina Christakos
Most men find women mysterious and confusing. You find us
difficult to figure out. It isn't your fault. It's not like anyone gave you a guide book
on women in high school to study.
Here are some of the mysteries about women revealed:
1) Before you even get to the door most women wonder if you are Mister Right.
2) She is just as anxious as you are about your first date.
3) Women like your undivided attention. Pay attention to what she has to say and she will
be more interested in hearing about you. Also keep your eyes on her. Eyeing any of the
other women in the room is a definite way to make that first date your last.
4) After the first date women pretty much know if and when they will sleep with you.
5) Many women don't want to get married or at least not as early as they used to. Many
women are staying single into their late thirties in favor of pursuing their own careers.
6) A woman can complain about her family all she wants but the second you criticize her
family start packing your bags.
7) Asking a woman if you are the best she ever had is pointless. We will lie to avoid
hurting your feelings. You will never know if you are the biggest, the best or last the
About The Author: Caterina Christakos is a published author
and dating coach.
Relationship Compatibility Factors
You always hear
that opposites attract, but is this true? Relationship compatibility
has more to do with it than opposites attract.
single and looking for someone who is right for you? If you are like
the majority of single people you probably have no idea where or how
to find someone that would be right for you.
To find the right person you need to have a
fit with that person's habits, personality, and you have to think
the same things are important. There are many forms of compatibility
that you should look for in a relationship.
The first compatibility factor is personality.
You need to consider if you and your partner have compatible
personalities. For instance, if you are laid back and your date is
uptight, than your personalities do not match. It is almost
impossible to change someone's personality and this is the most
important factor in a relationship, so find someone who shares your
The next compatibility factor is being
intimately connected. Intimacy, closeness, and romance play a big
role in if you will have a romantic compatibility with your date.
The biggest forms of this are public displays of affection. Some
people are fine with kissing and hugging in public, but others are
not. Not having the same style can have a negative long-term effect
on your relationship.
Another compatibility factor is communication.
Are you the type of person who likes to talk a lot? Or, are you the
type of person who likes to listen a lot? If you are dating someone
who is opposite of you than you are probably going to have a
successful relationship. However, if you are dating someone who
likes to talk or listen a lot and you are the same way the
relationship will have problems.
The final compatibility is financial. Are you
the person who likes to save or do you like to spend your money?
Money is one of the things that couples fight over most. So, if you
and your partner have the same financial goals than you are more
likely to have a successful relationship.
If you take a close look at your relationship
using these relationship compatibility factors you should be able to
tell if your current date or if someone in the future is right for
you. Pay close attention to your personality, your finances, your
communication, and your intimacy, and you should have a good future
of relationships ahead of you.