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Dating and Relationship Articles
Conquering
a Woman's Heart
Having Sex
or Making Love
7 Ways to Make
Yourself Irresistible
7 Things
You Must Know About Women
How
to Arouse Her Instantly
Exceed
Your Limits with Women
The
Art of Flirting
Are You
Confusing Escape with Comfort, in your Relationship?
Conquering
a Woman's Heart
by: Caterina Christakos
Conquering a woman's heart is for many men more or less
some kind of a minefield. Certainly, women contain every ingredient needed for making a
Molotov Cocktail, and the key is to handle them gentle enough not to set them off.
Applying to animals and humans alike, instincts gave women
the privilege of picking while men the "honor" of doing their best to convince
them that they are the best choice possible. Although it might not seem such an easy job,
it comes with our own nature. More than that, as the Bible says, women were created from
and for men.
Don't let yourselves fooled by all those saying that they
have the secrets needed to get any woman and become modern Don Juans. The only secret I
can think of is being yourself. The rest is, believe it or not, pure and simple human
psychology.
Just to give you an idea of how simple it can actually be,
I'll just list a few of the things needed for the "big conquest". Before
attempting anything, every man should keep in mind that the times when males stood up on a
heap of dirt and showcased their powers are long gone. You don't have to prove her
anything! Instead, make her want to discover your qualities.
- PATIENCE. This is not a hit and run thing and showing some
patience tells the woman that you could represent more than just a waste of time. Forcing
a woman into something she does not want to do is a major mistake that will most likely
cause irreparable damage to the relationship.
- HUMOR. Aside the relaxed atmosphere they create, funny guys
inspires optimism and positive attitude. After all, do you like a woman that always
complains about something?
- WITS. Without some activity in your brain she could take off
before you know it. Nevertheless, a savant attitude will most likely make her feel bad and
underestimated. Keep in mind that women fight for equality and never try to show her what
an undiscovered genius you are. After a couple of minutes of relaxed, humorous and subtly
witty chat she will figure you out by herself.
- SENSITIVENESS. Despite some opinions, women DO like
sensitive men. Nevertheless, there's a big difference between a sensitive man and a weak
man. Let her feel that she can rely on you, that you're always on top of the situation but
you can listen to her problems and maybe even help her out sometimes.
- GOOD LOOKS. You don't have to be Brad Pitt to be considered
good looking. What matters most is the way you let her understand that you take care of
yourself. A clean and tidy person will most likely have a clean and tidy relationship.
- PUNCTUALITY. Men are NEVER allowed to be late while women
HAVE to show up a little late so the man knows she is still to be conquered. More than
that, it is the woman's way of letting you know she was preparing herself to look her best
for you. You should never come up with excuses for being late, even if they might be true.
Any excuse is just as pathetic as the next one, so if you think you can't make it in time
simply let her know with some time in advance.
The list could go on and on but the idea behind everything
is the same: always be yourself, treat her as your equal and understand her as a human
being and not as a good catch. Women always sense these things even if you don't say them
out loud.
About The Author: Caterina Christakos is a
published author and dating coach.
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Having Sex
or Making Love
by: Caterina Christakos
Having sex or making love?
Actually, the difference between the two concepts is bigger than some of us would like it
to be. And, as almost every time, women feel it the most. What is the difference? Well,
love. Women need to be protected, looked after and loved as much in bed as in every day
life.
Keep in mind that this is not just a legend used by women to manipulate men. The
difference between having sex and making love, together with it's implications in a
couple's sex life is what many men forget when sharing the bed-sheets with a woman.
Clearly, everything written so far will not apply to
one-night-stands. In those cases it is all about a sexual intercourse between two people
who only share their bodies.
After the bottom line has been drawn, most men feel good about themselves after a
one-night- stand, without thinking about their sexual performance. Totally pleasing a
woman from the very first time is no easy job as the only mystery she had disclosed
is her body.
Yet, most men are attracted to one-night-stands or, with other words, to having sex. The
lack of commitment needed and the easy attaining of the main goal: feeling good, are just
two reasons pleading in favor of having sex.
On the other hand there is so much more between a man and a woman making love. There are
feelings and emotions, leading to a totally different connection between the two of them.
More than
that, for women, one of the most important things during sex is the environment. And this
means everything from location to those few candles some like to place around the bed.
Let's take them in turn a little bit. If you want to leave her smiling and begging for a
cigarette and some more there are some things you might like to take into consideration.
Trying dad's old car's rear suspension will make the car happier than her. The ideal
location would certainly be a bed in a nice and cozy room with nothing interfering with
the moment. Someone
knocking on the door or even a ringing phone can have very undesirable effects. Some
candle-like lights and easy-listening music in the background adds even more to the
overall foreplay.
Explore every inch of her body and draw imaginary contours with your fingers and tongue,
kiss her neck, breasts, belly and legs, all in a specific order surrounding the most
important area and closing in at the same time. All this will increase the tension
and when that moment comes both you and her will feel the difference.
Communication is essential for great results. Men must pay attention to the unspoken signs
every woman gives them. Ignoring these signs will make women feel used. The old legend
that says that when a woman says "no" she actually means "yes" is
nothing more than a poor excuse so keep your ears open for her desires.
If all goes well, you might be given the supreme sexual command and that's "don't
stop!" When you hear that, whatever you do, DON'T STOP!
About The Author: Caterina Christakos is a
published author and dating coach.
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7 Ways to Make Yourself Irresistible
by: Caterina Christakos
The key to being irresistible to men is more about you and less about them.
It is about accentuating every one of your strengths both internally and
externally and reveling in them. So before we show you how to flirt, tease
and seduce, we are going to teach you how to pamper, indulge and revel in
the delicious power of being a woman.
1) Before going out to socialize or even see the one that you are currently
dating, take a few minutes to visualize what you want to happen. Picture in
detail exactly who you want and what you want to happen between you. What
qualities will your perfect lover have?
How will he look at you? How will he touch you? Add in as much detail as
possible. Knowing what you want is the first step to having it.
2) Before seeing the man you are dating or stepping foot outside the door,
take care with your appearance. Look in the mirror and identify all the
things that you like about yourself. If you focus on the qualities that you
like about yourself, you will have far more confidence in yourself than most
women out there. That will show and give you an edge.
3) Accentuate those positive qualities. For example: If you have full shiny
hair make the most of it. Let it flow down your shoulders. Play with it in
front of the one you desire. Men have a fascination with hair.
If you have full pouty lips, apply liner around the
edges then fill in with a deep gloss that accentuates your skin tone, then
apply a lighter coat just in the center of your lips. This will give them
even more sex appeal.
4) Play up your eyes. A lot of flirting is done with eye play. Look at him
then look away. Use your eyes to tell him everything that you are feeling,
everything that you would like to do to him.
5) Wear clothes that accentuate your assets. Hint at your curves without
exposing them. Remember less is more. Incite his curiosity. Make him want to
see more.
6) Wear a delicate scent. Apply your perfume twenty minutes before you go
out the door. A woman's scent is enticing. Overpowering perfume, on the
other hand, is a major turn off.
7) Take care of your whole body, not just your face. Most women wash their
face daily and moisturize but what about the rest of you? Take care of your
skin. Use a good sugar scrub on your body and follow with a rich
moisturizer. If your body feels silky smooth, you will feel and act sexier.
Plus the man of your dreams won't be able to resist caressing your smooth,
silky soft skin.
About The Author: Caterina Christakos is a
published author and dating coach.
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7 Things
You Must Know About Women
by: Caterina ChristakosMost men find women mysterious and confusing. You find us
difficult to figure out. It isn't your fault. It's not like anyone gave you a guide book
on women in high school to study.
Here are some of the mysteries about women revealed:
1) Before you even get to the door most women wonder if you are Mister Right.
2) She is just as anxious as you are about your first date.
3) Women like your undivided attention. Pay attention to what she has to say and she will
be more interested in hearing about you. Also keep your eyes on her. Eyeing any of the
other women in the room is a definite way to make that first date your last.
4) After the first date women pretty much know if and when they will sleep with you.
5) Many women don't want to get married or at least not as early as they used to. Many
women are staying single into their late thirties in favor of pursuing their own careers.
6) A woman can complain about her family all she wants but the second you criticize her
family start packing your bags.
7) Asking a woman if you are the best she ever had is pointless. We will lie to avoid
hurting your feelings. You will never know if you are the biggest, the best or last the
longest.
About The Author: Caterina Christakos is a
published author and dating coach.
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How
to Arouse Her Instantly
by: Caterina Christakos
Smooth pick up lines may have worked in 80s movies but most
women today are a bit more savvy. There are much more subtle and effective ways to turn
women on.
Eye contact is one of them. Pay attention to what she is
saying and keep your eyes above her bust line. Breast ogling is not a turn on, unless she
has just had them done and is asking you about them.
Touching is another way to show her you are interested but
it has to be the right kind of touching. Running your thumb in little circles over the top
of her hand or her palm can be highly arousing. Grabbing her ass is not.
Touch her as if she is the most beautiful woman you have
ever seen.
Caress her with the love that most guys give to their
favorite vintage car or most dreamed of stereo component. Run your hands gently over her
curves.
Put your passion into the kiss. Slow and seductive. Deep
and hungry. Your kiss can be the date maker or breaker. Savor the taste of her. Drink her
up without leaving her face all wet and drippy.
Women want to be wooed then taken.
About The Author: Caterina Christakos is a published author
and dating coach.
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Exceed
Your Limits with Women
by: Caterina Christakos
The success of any encounter with a woman depends on a
series of factors, but, undeniably, the most important one is the mental component. A
mentally strong person is surrounded by a powerful charisma and will find the dating game
a lot easier to play than an insecure person.
Now don’t get nervous. You don’t have to have
nerves of steel to score with women. Instead you can learn how to use your nervousness to
your advantage and transform it into the fuel needed on the "battlefield".
“Yeah right,“ you say. But what happens when your
heart starts pumping like crazy and your voice and hands shake every time you approach a
girl?
First of all you should know (know it AND believe it) that
it is all in your mind. You are your own worst enemy telling yourself that you can't do
it, that you're not good enough or that she would never be with someone like you. Instead
of sabotaging yourself try to have a more positive attitude. It will make you seem more
confident and therefore more attractive.
In order to be successful you have to project self
confidence and strength. But how can you pose as a successful man when inside your head
there is this voice that keeps telling you that you're actually a loser? Strength comes
from within so there is where it all starts.
Imagine the successful completion of your objective before
you approach a woman, or even head out the door. Know exactly what you want to achieve
both short term and long term with women.
Set achievable goals.
Ex. I am coming home with one or more women’s phone
numbers.
Ex. I am having sex with an attractive woman tonight.
Imagine the whole scenario. Picture the successful
completion of your objective then work backwards.
What did you need to do to reach that objective?
Does it mean dressing a little differently?
Ex. If you work in construction all day, maybe you could
dress just a bit nicer when you go out to meet women.
Maybe do a search online for great jokes or pick up lines?
Women love men that make them laugh.
Plan on a different kind of club than you normally go to?
If you are interested in an upscale girl, then the local pub may not provide what you are
looking for.
Dating attractive, intelligent women takes planning.
Know what you want, create a strategy and go after her.
About The Author: Caterina Christakos is a published author
and dating coach.
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The
Art of Flirting
by: Caterina Christakos
Flirting is an art form that should be practiced. If you are
not seeing someone right now then I suggest that you flirt with as many men as possible.
Don't do it with the hope of picking one up, although that
may be a pleasant side affect. Think of it as practice until you meet the one that curls
your toes and makes your heart flutter.
What does flirting entail?
- Make small talk with your waiter.
- Use your eyes to signal attraction to the men sitting at
nearby tables.
Then when you perfect these little signs of affection,
attention and out and out interest, use them on the one that you really want to attract. A
woman who is confident in her charms is rare indeed. You will appear mysterious, sensuous
and worldly.
About The Author: Caterina Christakos is a published author
and dating coach.
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Are You Confusing Escape with Comfort, in your Relationship?
by John AlanisWe're
going to talk about some "advanced stuff" today, so I want you to
pay careful attention. As you may or may not know, it is very
important for a woman to feel a sense of security in a relationship,
to feel protected when she's with a man. This is true no matter how
powerful or successful she is, and comes back to what I call
defining authority in a relationship.
A woman takes comfort in a man who defines authority
in a relationship. She feels secure... and the two go hand in hand IF what
you're providing is what I call "true comfort." See, way too many people
confuse comfort with escape and the consequences can be dangerous. So what's
the difference between the two?
Let's start with what "escape" means. Escape is really
the illusion of comfort... a retreat into a false reality in an attempt to
get away from "real reality." Unfortunately, the consequences of "real
reality" still apply. An extreme example, of course, is the drug addict who
spends all his time either high or trying to get that way, so he doesn't
have to deal with reality. Of course reality always come crashing down, and
the addict has to face the consequences of the decisions he made based on
events in his illusion that in actuality apply to reality. Usually these
consequences are not good... jail, termination of relationships, health
problems, etc.
Now, don't get the idea I think escape is bad, because
it's not, unless taken to the extreme, and mistaken for comfort in the
relationship. I think escape is a fine thing IF you both recognize that's
what you're doing. In fact, many "special friends" or "adventure partner"
relationships are based purely on escape, and that's a great thing... as
long as both people realize that and continue to make reality based
decisions, not "illusion based" decisions. But, what often happens is one or
both partners mistakes escape for comfort, and starts making decisions based
on illusion, not reality. I think many long term relationships go bad for
this reason. Can escape be part of a successful long term relationship?
Sure, and it should be IF "true comfort" is present. "Special friends" or
"adventure partners" can be based purely on escape, but if you want to have
a successful long term relationship with a wonderful woman, you must be able
to provide her true comfort IN ADDITION to escape.
So what is "true comfort?" True comfort comes from the
creation of a different reality, the molding and changing of a current
reality to create outcomes which lead to comfort and security. The old
reality is changed, not "retreated from." With "escape" you're dealing with
two versions of reality: reality itself and "illusion of reality." With
comfort you're creating, changing, molding, and shaping your own reality.
When you are aware of this distinction, and controlling the direction, your
relationship improves on many levels.
True comfort in a relationship comes only from true
strength. Only a truly strong man can create his own reality. And true
strength comes from sound mind, true character, desire and the willingness
to pay the price to create that comfort for her and for you. That means,
learning, studying, reading and working on "reality creation"... developing
the ability to create your own outcomes with attraction, with money, with
your health and with your relationships. When you can do that, you will
achieve fulfillment.
When she knows you can create a reality for her and
you in these areas she will feel true comfort, even if she herself is
already capable of creating these things for herself. Why would a "capable
woman" settle for an "incapable man" who can provide only escape, not true
comfort? The answer is, she won't, at least not for long. She may indulge
herself in escape for a bit, but when the escape is over and it's time to
get back to reality, she'll continue her search for the MAN who provides her
with true comfort in the relationship she wants.
The lesson is this: if you feel you're ready for a
long term relationship with a wonderful woman who makes every part of your
day brighter, you must be strong enough to create true comfort for her. If
not, you will only create escape, and your time with her will be momentary.
Escape is great for some things, even as part of a long term relationship,
but not as its foundation. When it's true comfort you're providing her she
will stay with you until the end... and beyond.
About the Author:
John Alanis, "The King of Let 'em Come to You",
is author of the "Women Approach You" system at
http://www.womenapproachyou.com.
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